HE HAS HIS DREAM BUT WHAT ABOUT MINE

what am i supposed to do about my dreams now just like put them on hold and wait for him to get out of the navy to start my own business and watch it grow. i know he gave up some dreams for me and i have done the same but that is my dream to have my own business now that dream is just over and done with?

Well is your dream something that you need a building for?

If you're married you either need to find a way to pursue it or realise you make sacrifices when youre married,and get over it.If you aren't married...then you can decide how much you want a career (which may or may not work and you may lose your bf/finacee) over being with someone.It isn't an easy decision...but it will be something you need to decide.

I had a few dreams too...then I got pregnant and realised we're gonna be career military.Which means every 3 years,I will be changing dance schools and cannot pursue my love of dance.It was a harsh reality and it sucks,believe me....but Im not getting rid of the kid and divorcing my husband for something so shallow as dance.

There are many women who have careers and arent the typical stay at home moms.There are so many things out there you can move with.

Take a deep breath,this is not the end of the world...as you grow older you will miss out on a lot of things but they will be traded for christmas with your kids.

You're also young...at 18,you can feel getting cornered into a "life" might be too much.You can only decide for yourself what you wanna do.There are many young military wives who love their life,and love their family.And the divorce rate in the military marriage is about something like 75% within the first year of marriage.There are many things to weigh.

Good luck.

thanks for the help! i mean im just like i know i want to be with him and i will follow him to the ends of the earth but i do have a job that i can do all over the place so that is easy enough i didnt think about it that way thanks!

No problem.

I think also keep in mind and while you dont see this right now...that the military will always come first.That you need to keep in mind you will be single a lot.You will not get holidays more than likely with your husband,and if you do cherish the daylights out of them.

As long as you keep in mind the military trumps everything else in his life and yours,then you've got a piece of the navy pie figured out.

lol yeah ive pretty much realized that now a days!

#1 we're married and #2 our hubbies are in the military. we sacrifice tons! its just a way of life. but i think in the long run it will definitely be worth it :)

yeah i know i was just kinda in a reality shock the other day so to speak it all hit me at once! but yeah i would much rather choose my husband then my job, cause he is my dream!

awww thats beautiful! :) i love the way you put it

lol im really corney when it comes to things like that!!!! :!:

Have you thought about some sort of home based business? That way no matter where you go or what you do you can just take business with you? I mean its not exactly the same as having your own store on the corner or anything but it would be a business all the same! jmo Good Luck with everything!

Yeh i mean i change my mind about things as much as i change my underwear lol. so alot i mean and like i just always look for something new!