different parenting ideas... ughh

well Brandon and I disagree on the nap thing. I think that all 3 kids need naps during the day.. i can see differences in them when they dont have naps and when they do have naps.. he thinks if they dont want to take naps they dont have to.. and im like explain to me what toddler wants to take naps?! Lelan fights it sooo bad its not even funny, he is almost 3... he also fights it at night.. he just doesnt want to go to sleep... brandon thinks have them go to sleep when they want to.. and im like no they need structure... they need some sort of routine.. and i have the routine perfect when he works... but his days off he ruins everything... but he will force the younger 2 girls to their routine but he think since lelan is a little older he can do what he wants?! I think not... and it drives me crazy because he favors "his boy" over the other kids.. and he is like he doesnt ever get to see and im like yeah well neither does lile... so i dont get it... he needs to get over it.. drives me crazy!!!

am i overeacting or not?

help me girls please?!

I don't have kids and I can tell the difference in other people's kids when they don't take naps.

No you arent.

Your kids should be in bed by 8pm,830pm the latest.

They should have naps...I usually took mine when my Mom was making dinner or earlier in the day.

Have you thought about picking up parenting books? So he can hear it from the "experts."

I have three children....They are much older but when they were younger they all laid down for naps...now whether or not they slept was a different story, but they should at least have down time or quiet time to rest their brains and bodies. It was understood that this was quiet time for them (and also some silence for mom!) Rest is so important!

tell him that even in kindergarten many school require nap time

i dont think youre over reacting at all...kids dont know whats best for themselves, thats why they have parents! and you know that its best for them to get a nap or else theyre cranky and make everyone else cranky too.

yeah he agrees that the girls need naps but god forbid "his boy" has to do something he doesnt want to.. he gets what he wants when he wants and how he wants... its getting to the point that well he was a brat before and now he is like worst than ever... he goes around and beats the crap out of the girls.. one time i was changing the little ones diaper and he came up and dropped kick her... and i told brandon and he said well he is just being a boy... and im like so pinning the girls down and literally punching them in the face is being a boy.. and im like yeah maybe being a boy, but an out of control boy!!! its getting to the point and i just cant handle it anymore... i told Brandon if he doesnt start disciplining him then he was going to have to put him in daycare... i cant do it... its ridiculous. i literally fight with him for an hour to get him to go to bed!!! he takes lelan on tiese special trips to the park and stuff like this because he said he needs time alone with his boy and im like what about your daughter Brandon?! Lile wont even go to him she wants to be with me all the time because she doesnt know Brandon, he doesnt spend time with her... he spends it all with lelan....

and i dont know how to show him it isnt right how he is picking favorites like this!!!

i guess he just doesnt understand that what he's doing isnt in lelan's best interest...because right now his daddy lets him get away with whatever he wants but in the real world that doesnt happen. and when lelan grows up and figures this out, i have a feeling he is going to be pretty disapointed in his dad for not giving him some structure and discipline. just my opinion though. i hope he can see that theres a better way

i hope so too... its affecting our relationship!!! we fight over it all the time.. and most of the time i give in because i just cant fight about it anymore!!

i keep telling him he has nothing at home so its our job to give him rules and structure here!!!

I only have a 6 month old baby but I believe that he needs structure. I try my hardest to keep him on the same schedule. He naps the same time everyday and takes his bottle at the same times. He goes to bed at 9 every night! You can definitley tell a difference when children don't have naps. They are cranky. I agree maybe you should get a book.

Id just beat the kid back...haha.

Dropkick the kid and then ask how he likes it....

:)

But thats the South Philly/Irish Catholic childhood talking.

My Mom had to say my name and it was like getting the s*it beaten out of me.

UncleSamWifey wrote:

Id just beat the kid back...haha.

Dropkick the kid and then ask how he likes it....

:)

But thats the South Philly/Irish Catholic childhood talking.

My Mom had to say my name and it was like getting the s*it beaten out of me.

hahaha ohhh man...thats a good idea!

Id get a book...but Id also take desperate measures.

All you need is for him to find it "really funny" to drop one of the kid's on their heads.

Either your husband gets his s*it together and wises up or you need to go to counseling.

I would put that kid out on the streets so fast and see how he likes it.

No more of feelings,holding hands,and talking about it.

Its been talked to death it seems and someone needs their ass beaten.

My mom was a single mom,and she raised 3 of us...and yeah,if we pulled anything we couldn't walk straight for a few days.And there was an old school way of doing things and it worked.All this stuff of feelings,medication,is bull.Old fashion beating,washing your mouth out with soap,and missing a few meals didn't hurt anyone :D

oh yeah i do, i beat that kids ass.. i swear thats all i ever do is beat his ass though...it drives me crazy because ill bust his ass and he is not even good for 5 minutes... ive busted his ass and put him and timeout and it doesnt work.. ive tried military style like my father did with me(he is in the army), if i messed up i had a week of basic training(no joke), put on by my fathers friend who used to be a drill sargeant at basic lol.. i used to have to run 5 miles every morning rine, shine, snow, didnt matter... i lived my life like i was in basic! And that didnt even work and its because since brandon doesnt take it seriously when i discipline him, lelan isnt!!!! and then when Brandon is home i will tell lelan to do something and brandon keeps cuddling him... he is a boy, he is supposed to be tough, he is a little girl... the 2 actual little girls are tougher than lelan... he is freakin coddled to much at THREE yrs. old.. isnt coddling supposed to end when infancy ends?!?!?!